Saturday, December 1, 2012

Rested and Thankful

Thank you everyone who had faith enough in me to buy my book. :) I can't tell you how great it makes me feel that someone actually cares about what I do. That sounded strange didn't it? Yeah, it did. But, it's not like I'm wallowing. It's just that my grown daughters really have no interest in learning and I was born a teacher. I have to get this stuff out. I'm one of those people who has eureka moments and has to blurt it out to the world. It's just me. I get real excited and can't wait to share. So, it's been super awesome to share with you all. I really did try to put in as much as I could.

The only real break from the book that I took was for Thanksgiving. I was talking to someone, not from the US, and she said that she is just beginning to understand what a big holiday it is for us Americans. I tried to explain it as not a religious holiday, but a family day. But, thinking about it, it's actually even more personal than that, isn't it? It is the day we all reflect on what we are each, personally, thankful for. Of course, there is some history in there to remember, but that usually falls by the wayside in deference to turkey and stuffing. (And, gravy... gotta have gravy.) So, this Thanksgiving, I had a wonderful day brimming with family. But, what was, at one point, mistaken for brooding, was actually me thinking really hard about what it is I am thankful for. People will say things like "my family", "my job"- you know, the usual. But, what I was really thankful for this past year was that I finally feel like a grown up. I am thankful for my family, of course, I am. But, I ALWAYS am. What's new is that I am thankful that I finally feel like I have reached, or have gotten pretty close to, Maslov's self actualized ideal.

A lot of you reading are in my age group of 50 something. So, you probably understand what I'm saying here. There was a good part of my life when everything about MY life took a back seat to a child's needs. Or, played second fiddle to a husband's needs. It is true that I am with children again, but this time it is different. Yes, I am home with them and they are most important, but I have not had to give up my own endeavors in order to meet their needs. I've been able to pursue my own jewelry passions and curiosities, as a creative being, without having to sacrifice anything. It has been good for the two tweens, too. They are proud of grandma and I think I am a good example to them. 

The day after Thanksgiving, I released my book. It wasn't without some previous reflection. I have always wanted to write a book and I did it. I am, of course, an amateur. But, a good one, I think. I think I made my points and I think they were relevant. But, on a personal note- the fact that I even did it, was a triumph for me. It was a milestone in my life. I came one step closer to being a self actualized person. A whole autonomous person. Not a wife, a mother, a grandmother, or a sister, but ME, Tela.

While I may have looked like I was brooding while waiting for the turkey, I was actually deep in thought. I concluded that I am thankful for the spot I am at, in my life, right now. I am thankful that I have this little community of readers to share with and I am thankful for a husband who allows me to be a self actualized woman and I am thankful for what ever talents I have which allow me to express myself. It's taken a lot of years, but finally I feel like a grown up.

In celebration of the book, I took some time off, (and for my birthday, too, which probably contributed to the retrospective tone of this post). Then I picked up the pliers to do some work. I took some pics with my new camera (review to come soon) which I am still learning and getting used to. I got a new tripod, too. Who knew even those could be so confusing? *sigh* But, I think I have it all sorted and I'm getting back into the swing of things.

Mojave Turquoise Sterling Silver

Spiderweb Variscite (one of the example stones in the book)

 That's it for now. Thanks for reading :) Have a wonderfully creative time and follow your dreams!

I need to give a special shout out to Christine for writing a wonderful review of my book at JewelryLessons. Unfortunately, it was taken down by the management. :( 



  1. Tela, your book was such a savior for me. My daughter and I were tucked away in our hotel room over Thanksgiving waiting for the clinic to open. I read your book word for word and learned an incredible amount. I can't wait to put it into practice. Between that and wanting to learn to fuse, I don't know where to start. I'm flying back home to Florida after what seems to be a long and exhausting two weeks. Mayo is an incredibly wonderful place, they can't do miracles, but we were satisfied with the help that she received. She is in less pain and is moving along in the right direction.

    I've been disappointed in JL for some time now. I became a premium member with great expectations and have been patiently hoping that it would develop into more as time went on. After reading your book, there is no comparison. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and techniques with us!

  2. Kate, I'm so glad to hear your daughter is more comfortable and moving forward in a positive way. No matter how old they are, they are always our little kids, still needing bandaids, hugs and reassurance. My youngest daughter is 28 and still wants Mom with her when ever she doesn't feel good. I'm sure your daughter was very comforted by your presence. :)

    Thank you for the positive feedback about the book. I'm glad it held your attention while you were a hotel captive. :)

    I haven't been back to JL since I left. I am a little disappointed that Eni thinks my efforts aren't an actual BOOK. :(

  3. Tela, Reading this post brought tears to my eyes. I am so very proud of you for many reasons. The book is phenomenal and I don't say that lightly. Growing into ourselves is a long journey with many detours and bumps along the way. I am proud you feel closer to your authentic self. Most days, I too feel much closer and it is a joy.

    Thank you for the shout out! I am very disappointed (and a few other adjectives) the review did not stay up. A letter was sent to JL Admin. but I have not heard back :((

    Kate, no matter how old our daughters are, they still need Momma TLC.Happy to hear your daughter is improving.

    1. Hi Christine, It is a big deal to finally feel like you have reached some kind of destination. Sometimes, we don't know what the destination actually was and it takes a while to figure it out. It's like having something on the tip of your tongue. Then, suddenly, it occurs to you and then the world somehow seems more right. :)

      Jl is, what JL is. Whattayagonnado? You were a peach to post it and that's what counts to me. ((HUGS)) I posted on Copper Wire Jewelers as Lois invited me (see below). You can add your review there if you want. :)

  4. Cindy left Texas now in MissouriDecember 1, 2012 at 11:44 AM

    I am loving just watching your journey, I bet living it is even better! Congratulations on your book & accomplishments!

    1. Thank you, Cindy. :)Living it awesome.... except for those days when my bones ache like hell! LOL!

  5. Tela, please ask Christine to post her review at Copper Wire Jewelers. I would welcome it! In addition, why don't you open a group (bottom left) for conversation and questions about the book. I can't wait to read it. I noticed you addressed my question about how to make the back look good, .
    Happy Birthday, (I'm in that bracket too)and I don't think I'm self actualized yet. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.
    Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas (or insert holiday of choice). In my book both holidays for heavy reflection.
    My Mom is gone now but I still want her with me when I am sick. Ginger Ale and crackers on the couch were the order of the day.
    Don't let JL get you down. Groups that don't give back to members and make it worthwhile to share will eventually go away from lack of activity.
    I almost feel like we are sitting here chatting.
    Big hugs and congratulations,

    1. Hi Lois!! Wonderful chat! Happy every holiday to you, too. :)

      Yup, crackers and ginger ale it was for us, too. There are days when I'd do anything to sit and have a cup of coffee with Mom. Christmas time always makes me miss her even more.

      At the risk of seeming like spam, I went ahead and took up your invitation to post at Copper Wire Jewelers. I sent Christine the link. :) Thank you for reminding me there are better places under the sun. I just don't want to become like a walking ad for my book. :)


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